It is the pretrial conference right before trial. You have filed your Motion in Limine. The issue is one of great importance to you. There is a very damaging piece of evidence which you know opposing counsel is going to seek to introduce. You want it excluded and have so moved, in limine.
Your motion is well researched, well reasoned and well written. You are now before the trial judge arguing the motion. Despite a strong argument and making all your points, it is clear by the judge’s questions or comments that the judge is not persuaded and is about to rule against you. This is the moment when a lot of inexperienced lawyers will double down and argue even more vociferously to win the day. But the seasoned lawyer knows there is another way to win: avoid the dispute for the moment. Do not let the judge say “no”. Instead, when you can see that you are probably not going to prevail, it is far better to offer an alternative to receiving a negative ruling: Avoid this dispute for now.
“Your honor, may I ask that the Court reserve on this motion. I would ask that you instruct opposing counsel not to mention it in his opening and approach sidebar before asking any questions about it. I believe that once you have heard some evidence, my position will be more clear and it might be easier to rule then. There will be no prejudice to the other side in holding off until you have a chance to see the issue in the context of the evidence.”
Needless to say, this same advice applies when you are opposing a motion in limine. Suggest to the judge that you will not mention the particular piece of evidence in your opening but that you believe that when the judge hears more evidence, the relevance of that evidence will be more clear.